The grass isn’t greener without the skill of (intentional) ‘gardening’

Time and time again, we recognize that the grass isn’t always greener.

In fact, it’s really just grass—the same grass we’ve always known whether we find ourselves on one side or the other. The “side” in itself is an illusion. We’re all in the same field! Although, maybe not the same playing field.

Breaking out the illusion of “getting there or here or wherever it is” is the contemplation of whether we are able to perceive our present moment reality the way it is or lack thereof of the presence we seek. It’s the recognition of the fact that we have already arrived that grounds us into the blessings that we already have and just don’t quite see in the midst of a fast-paced world and lifestyle that seemingly doesn’t stop (especially for us career-driven men and women).

I’ve gotten into this mindset many times and each time, I come out learning and re-learning the same lesson:

it’s not what you do, it’s how you do it.

How you do everything is how you do everything. And I fall into the traps of how society has always done things, which is doing more, more and more….

In fact, it’s about doing less and being more. A fair amount of doing and being in any exact moment determines our abilities to capture how vast, how beautiful and how magical EVERY opportunity is. Therefore we cease to miss the opportunity altogether. We do not miss the lesson. And when we pass lessons, we move into new levels, spaces, and visions.

Doing more isn’t always the answer. In some cases, they are—especially when you’re strapped for cash or finding your back against the wall wondering time and time again, “why didn’t I just get my shit together sooner!?”

And time and time again, I am reminded to not waste a single breath or headspace on the thoughts that drag me down about my past.

We don’t know what we don’t know. So, open the door to the sacred practice of developing compassion and grace on a day-to-day basis until it’s fully integrated into our being. Until we believe we are enough.

I seem to awaken to the same lesson over and over again. The universe telling me, “How much of you are you going to sacrifice? And for what?” How often do we sacrifice ourselves for the sake of…. well, anything?

• to feel accepted
• to feel belonging
• to feel stability
• to feel “love” (even if it’s fleeting and totally wrong for you)

If you’re human, it’s many times over. And that is so OKAY. I believe it’s always okay to go after what your heart desires at that moment, whether conscious or unconscious because you’re learning. Every single day, we have a choice. Small daily choices.

In my case, reckoning from the lessons of returning back to my self-regulation for the sake of my health has been a theme for many years in all areas of my life and I’m happy I can admit that without hiding in shame like I used to. That’s progress.

I put myself on the line daily, as do many of you, learning to remove the weeds of HOW I do things because I think it’s important to welcome change and adopt a new and better way. Shit, If there’s a will, there’s a way!!! The evolution of being human in itself is a masterpiece. The ultimate puzzle of achieving “Heaven on Earth”.

So, I wake up and choose what needs my attention. And today, my intention is to allow flow and move slow.